Hey there, enthusiasts for a more cooperative world. My name is Monisha and I want to thank you for spending a few minutes with me today. The topic of today’s vlog is around resentment and how to clear it all on your own. We’ve all been there. Felt a little bitter, felt like things are a little unfair, that we’re not really getting what we need from another person.

In my practice, I’ve noticed that there are 2 main reasons that we start to harbor the feelings of resentment. What I love about what I’m about to offer you is that it has nothing to do with the other person. It has everything to do with you and how you’re showing up.

Number 1, you probably have not spoken your truth in a situation. That other person probably has no idea what’s really going on for you. How are they supposed to meet you differently if you’re not communicating what’s true for you? Oftentimes, what will completely and utterly clear these feelings of resentment is just gaining up the courage to ask for what you need and communicate what’s true for you.

Number 2, you may have over given. This is a really common one. A lot of times, we just get into a habit with a particular person. Maybe you’re just used to picking up the check or you feel like you’re always available for them when they’re not available for you. That you’re not really receiving back what you put in. Well, that’s really actually on us because if we’re over giving, we’re not actually creating room for someone else to give back.

It’s a great opportunity, resentment comes up into your space to take a look. Just notice, am I over giving here? Am I just giving and giving and giving and not actually creating room for me to receive? That’s a big one. Oftentimes, it’ll be so simple as just shifting the way that you relate to that person, not because they necessarily wronged you but because you can start giving to yourself instead and give them room to match you back.

All right. If you’re feeling some resentment in your life, I would encourage you to track back and see, have you really spoken your truth? Does this person know how you feel? Have you just been over giving and just not giving them the opportunity to give back? Play around with this. There’s some good nuggets in there for you. I hope that this gives you some insight